50 Proven Self-Care Solutions for Partners of Trauma Survivors

"What do you do for self-care?" It's one of the first questions I am asked by other partners. While I know what works for me, my preferred activities may not be what works for you. In order to give you a range of what partners of survivors find helpful for self-care, I asked a group of them. Here is what they said.

50 Proven Self-Care Solutions for Partners of Trauma Survivors by Partners

1. Time with your kids 2. Beekeeping 3. Reading 4. Going to the gym 5. Take a long soak in a hot bubble bath "Self-care is showing your kids who you are as a person. Include them on things you like camping, bike riding, cooking, etc. Including them in on things you enjoy is part of self-care. I will take my kids out for hikes all the time." ~ Partners group member 6.  Separate activities and interests from my partner 7.  Sometimes, it’s basic daily activities like taking a shower and getting dressed 8.  Go to bed early and fall asleep reading 9.  Going to see my doctor 10. Getting a manicure every three weeks 11. Mindfulness-based stress reduction 12. Volunteer work 13. Playing Ms. Pacman 14. Play video games 15. Cooking 50 Proven Self-Care Solutions for the Partners of Trauma Survivors Heather Tuba @heathertuba Partners Trauma Survivors 16. Listening to music 17. Singing 18. Playing an instrument 19. Find new music to add to my digital library 20. Taking walks 21. Photography 22. Journal 23. Knitting 24. Gardening 25. Reading entertainment magazines 26. "Sometimes I just get a cup of coffee by myself." ~ Partners group member 50 Proven Self-Care Solutions for Partners of Trauma Survivors Heather Tuba @heathertuba Partners Trauma Survivors 27. Self-care can be as simple as flossing or brushing your teeth every morning 28. Meditation 29. Call up a friend (or two) 30. Visit a friend 31. Training my service dog 32. Go for a sunset walk with my dog 33. Put the phone on silent and just ENJOY the SOLITUDE (No overthinking, no ruminating. Brain OFF!) 34. Working out 35. Running outdoors 36. Cycling 37. Yoga 38. Martial arts 39. Massaging my face and neck, hands, arms with essential oils 40. Getting a massage 50 Proven Self-Care Solutions for the Partners of Trauma Survivors Heather Tuba @heathertuba Partners Trauma Survivors 41. Get out into my workshop and get creative 42. Renovation projects 43. Work in my metal shop 44. Refinishing furniture 45. Ride my motorcycle 46. Going for a drive 47. Go on a road trip with my kids 48. Bake cookies 49. Order take out 50. Stop whatever I am doing to take 5 slow breaths
"Most of these I do as everyday activities when I can, but when I'm in need of self-care, they take on a new importance, and I treat them like rituals. The big difference is that when in self-care mode, I KNOW that I'm doing these things to restore my emotional/spiritual energy. As everyday activities, they are simply a maintenance function. Either way, it helps to restore and protect myself when I am in a low spot." Partners group member
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