Trauma-Informed Support for Partners of Survivors
Last week, I attended a one-day workshop with Kristin Neff, Ph.D. For those of you who are not familiar with Dr. Neff’s work, she is a self-compassion researcher and the co-founder of the Mindful Self-Compassion…
Supporting partners of trauma survivors is my mission. I was very excited when Laura Reagan, founder, and host of TherapyChat invited me to be a guest on her podcast. Of course, the episode focused on…
It happened again. About one month ago, there was a clear decline in my husband’s mental health. Truthfully, the decline had been happening for a while, but it was obvious he needed medical help. Our…
You are more than your trauma. I couldn’t sleep. My mind ran restless laps around last week’s events. As much as I wanted to put it all behind me, my brain had other ideas. I…
Dear Friends, It has been a very intense month. Awareness of the impact of a partner’s past trauma on the family unit is growing. This awareness has meant rapid growth of my business Heather Tuba…
There’s a recurrent conversation between my partner and me. It goes like this. . . Me: “Why are you doing that?” or “Why didn’t you do that?” Him: “I don’t know.” Me: “What do you mean…
If you’ve been reading my blog posts for a while, you’ll know the topic of self-care is really important to me. It’s important because as a partner to a survivor, I know the high risk…
Last month, I drove my husband to the hospital emergency department. It was a difficult decision. I wrestled with it for several days. It was hard because first of all, I didn’t know if the…
As I write this, things are hard at home. My husband is struggling and so am I. 2018 was a challenging year and I feel discouraged. About ten days ago, I went out for one…
Making sense of complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is hard. As a partner to a man with C-PTSD, I struggle. Some things just don’t make sense. When I discover a clear quote that summarizes a key…
There are costs to loving a trauma survivor. I know this statement may come across as unloving, unkind, and insensitive. It might come across as uncaring, unsupportive, and cruel. But despite the potential misinterpretations of this statement,…