My commitment to providing deep, individualized work with partners, supporters, and clinicians who are in relationships with survivors is as strong as ever. As always, appointments are designed to provide customized care unique to each…
‘What happened to you?’ is not the only question for families of survivors If you have been reading my blog for a while or any other trauma-related information, I am sure you are familiar with…
My husband has developmental trauma and no one told me about it. After eight trauma therapists, three psychiatric assessments, four general practitioners, two big psychological breakdowns, many smaller breakdowns, three employment leaves, financial loss, one…
How do you remain hopeful when your survivor-partner is struggling? What a question! One with which I am well acquainted. Here’s the thing. I am not always hopeful. A recent challenge brought this front and…
Last week, I attended a one-day workshop with Kristin Neff, Ph.D. For those of you who are not familiar with Dr. Neff’s work, she is a self-compassion researcher and the co-founder of the Mindful Self-Compassion…
Supporting partners of trauma survivors is my mission. I was very excited when Laura Reagan, founder, and host of TherapyChat invited me to be a guest on her podcast. Of course, the episode focused on…
It happened again. About one month ago, there was a clear decline in my husband’s mental health. Truthfully, the decline had been happening for a while, but it was obvious he needed medical help. Our…
You are more than your trauma. I couldn’t sleep. My mind ran restless laps around last week’s events. As much as I wanted to put it all behind me, my brain had other ideas. I…
Dear Friends, It has been a very intense month. Awareness of the impact of a partner’s past trauma on the family unit is growing. This awareness has meant rapid growth of my business Heather Tuba…
There’s a recurrent conversation between my partner and me. It goes like this. . . Me: “Why are you doing that?” or “Why didn’t you do that?” Him: “I don’t know.” Me: “What do you mean…
If you’ve been reading my blog posts for a while, you’ll know the topic of self-care is really important to me. It’s important because as a partner to a survivor, I know the high risk…
Last month, I drove my husband to the hospital emergency department. It was a difficult decision. I wrestled with it for several days. It was hard because first of all, I didn’t know if the…