How to feel a little more support by noticing one thing

I’ve been thinking about one.

I’ve been thinking about it in my own life. I’ve been thinking about it for those impacted by CPTSD. Now, in the middle of January, in the middle of the pandemic, I am reminded of the importance of noticing one.

One person.

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One message.

One eye contact.

One phone call.

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One.

In the last ten years, noticing one has made a big difference in my life. One friend, one contact, one message or one friendly smile. Finding and noticing one has helped me feel a little less lonely and a little less overwhelmed as I have supported my partner in our journey with complex PTSD.

One has brought me new friends and re-acquainted me with old. One has also been unanticipated kindness and compassion from near and far.

While one thing or person never quite takes away the isolation many loved ones of those with CPTSD experience, noticing one has kept me afloat during dark times.

During these dark days of early 2021, I am again remembering the importance of noticing one.

While noticing one won’t take away or erase what is happening, it might help you feel a little bit of support.

It might also help us to intentionally be that one for someone else. We need one more than ever.


For those who are loved ones of a person with CPTSD or another chronic mental health condition, I know how hard it can be to find that one. I know how often it feels like no one understands and I know how exhausting it can sometimes be. While this post is written during the pandemic, it is meant to remind you as a loved one, you are not alone.

Perhaps by reading this post, you can begin to notice one.