Some of you know that I took the month of June (2017) off for some vacation time. I traveled to Victoria, BC to visit friends, spend time in nature, shop, and have fun! Sounds perfect, right? Having never visited the West Coast of Canada, I was enthralled by the massive trees, the lush gardens, the harbors, and the quaint coffee shops and boutiques. I loved spending time with my dear friends in their beautiful condo.
Yet, the answer to the question of a restful vacation remains somewhat elusive. Yes, I slept more, laughed more, and cooked less. The kids were at home with my husband. However, his struggles with PTSD did not take a vacation--even from a distance. I still had to take calls and texts regarding his health issues. Then, there was an ongoing, necessary discussion about upcoming treatment options and insurance coverage. And although I did limit these conversations, I couldn't completely get away from it.
Is there such a thing as a restful vacation when a partner has PTSD?
For me, the question of a perfectly restful vacation falls into the same category as the perfect wedding, the perfect graduation, or the perfect marriage. It really doesn't exist. This applies all the more when a member of a family struggles with PTSD.
So, I'm letting myself off the hook when it comes to my vacation--and I hope my honest answer might let you do the same. Was my vacation restful? Somewhat. Did I enjoy it? Yes! Would I do it again knowing that it will not be as restful or as refreshing as I'd like? Of course!
What About You?
Have any of you had the same experience with vacation time?
Have you been disappointed by a vacation or have you been able to accept the reality that trauma symptoms don't take a break?
As a trauma survivor or the partner, how do you find time for rest?