Tag: childhood trauma

Why the answer ‘I don’t know’ is helping me understand my partner’s dissociative disorder

Why understanding 'I don't know' is helping my relationship with my survivor-partner Heather Tuba @heathertuba dissociation

There’s a recurrent conversation between my partner and me. It goes like this. . . Me: “Why are you doing that?” or “Why didn’t you do that?” Him: “I don’t know.” Me: “What do you mean…

The costs of loving a trauma survivor

The cost of loving a trauma survivor Heather Tuba @heathertuba trauma survivor

There are costs to loving a trauma survivor. I know this statement may come across as unloving, unkind, and insensitive. It might come across as uncaring, unsupportive, and cruel. But despite the potential misinterpretations of this statement,…