I was struggling in my role as a partner to a survivor in a new relationship, not knowing how to be supportive and not understanding how to process her behavior. I feel I was lapsing into depression when I found Heather’s website.

After reading her articles, I reached out to Heather for her coaching services and am so very glad that I did. Her compassion, understanding, and perspective gave me tremendous comfort. She is so easy to talk to and through her sharing her own experience and knowledge, she helped me contextualize what was happening in my life.

Heather also was very strong about the need to take care of my needs through this process, which had gotten lost in the shuffle. She helped me through some very dark times, for which I will always be grateful.


Heather has been and continues to be my biggest support on this journey. I appreciate her time posting, blogging, learning, and just being here…at this time in my life! She is truly an inspiration and a wealth of knowledge.


Heather’s dedication to helping others, coupled with her commitment to being at the forefront of her field makes her a perfect candidate to assist anyone through their own journey with partner-related trauma. As soon as I saw her in action while she was training others, I knew she was someone I wanted to align within my own career development.

It is without hesitation that I recommend Heather Tuba, Trauma-Informed Coach to those that may be in partnership with someone with a history of trauma. Additionally, Heather provides the perfect adjunct care to anyone working with clients on their own relationships. Whether it be an opportunity to refer, seek consultation or work directly with Heather, it is surely an opportunity for growth.

Stephanie Morales, MA, CTRC

Heather’s information and guidance were incredibly helpful for me and my co-worker as we prepared to create a workshop for partners.

Most of the information you find today is directed at survivors, with little material on how it impacts the partners/loved ones. I really appreciate her addressing this gap, providing her life experiences with this topic and addressing how important trauma-informed approaches are.  To provide true healing, we need to incorporate all parts of the family because if not, we are providing a disservice. I have had several comments and feedback from partners, appreciating that this space is specifically for them, as they go through their healing journey, as well as supporting their loved one in the process.

Ashley MacNevin, BSW, RSW

Heather is a breath of fresh air in the trauma recovery field, adding a needed experiential voice about navigating the complex waters of being in relationship with a survivor of developmental trauma.

Her understanding of neurobiology and nervous system regulation offers important insights into how to best support partners who find themselves in living environments that are inherently dysregulating.

A partner of a survivor herself, Heather’s work is forging a new pathway toward a model of care where partners are seen, heard, respected and included as valued participants in the therapeutic process.

Anne Kinsey, M.Div., CTRC

Heather is the real deal. She consulted experts for years without getting helpful answers and persevered to find the science that made sense of her partner’s suffering. She helps others make sense of symptoms, see how it’s not about fault or blame, and avoid burn out. Her tools offer choices for how to best support loved ones with more ease and grace. Perhaps the best thing of all is that Heather comes from a heartfelt place that is clear, gentle, and nonjudgmental.

Veronique Mead, MD, MA

Witnessing Heather's public advocacy efforts and her unwavering commitment to understanding what her own partner was experiencing—gave me hope that my own partner would someday "seek to understand" the unique and devastating effects of complex trauma.

I've often found myself referring friends and loved ones to her website or social media feed for their daily dose of trauma-informed education and empowerment if they find themselves feeling like no one understands. If more partners truly sought to understand the effects of complex trauma, the support groups we offer to survivors would decrease by 50%.

Athena Moberg, Executive Director
CPTSD Foundation