What do partners of survivors read?
Over the past year, I’ve had the pleasure of interacting with many partners of survivors. What I’ve learned is that partners are avid readers. We read for inspiration. We read for information and we read to find strength in the midst of overwhelming life circumstances.
I’ve also learned the following about partners, reading, and books:
1. Many partners are already self-educated about trauma. In the quest for understanding, partners have read books about trauma, recovery, neurobiology, attachment, and more. Almost every partner I’ve asked has read The Body Keeps the Score.
2. Many partners are already engaged in a journey of personal growth, which includes reading books on this topic. Partners read about wellness, mental and physical health, mindfulness, contemplation, spirituality, and more.
3. Partners are curious and eager to learn about areas of interest that support self-care. Many of us engage in hobbies and interests that require learning new skills. The post 50 Proven Self-Care Solutions for Partners provides examples of self-care activities for partners.
What do partners read?
As you can see, partners read a lot. What do they read?
Here is a list of 25 books as suggested by partners. Each book on this list was read by at least one partner, with the last section of books mentioned by several.
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Books for Inspiration:
The Gifts of Imperfection. Brene Brown, Ph.D., LMSW.
Daring Greatly. Brene Brown, Ph.D., LMSW.
The Checklist Manifesto: How To Get Things Right. Atul Gawande.
King, Warrior, Magician Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine. Robert Moore and Doug Gillette.
Women who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype. Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph.D.
Man’s Search for Meaning. Viktor Frankl.
The Prophet. Kahlil Gibran.
The Little Book of Love. Kahlil Gibran.
David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling. Malcolm Gladwell.
The Four Agreements. A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. Don Miguel Ruiz.
Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation. Parker Palmer.
The Choice: Embrace the Possible. Dr. Edith Eva Eger.
Books on Trauma, Mental Health, and Relationships:
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Bessel van der Kolk, MD.
8 Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery: Take-charge Strategies for Reclaiming Your Life. Babette Rothschild.
Healing from Trauma: A Survivor’s Guide to Understanding Your Symptoms and Reclaiming Your Life. Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC.