About Me

Heather Tuba, B.A.

Trauma-informed author and advocate for childhood trauma survivors and supporters.

Sometimes life throws us curveballs. And then, sometimes life throws us fireballs.

That’s what happened to me when my husband of 21 years started to remember blocked memories of childhood trauma. Life as we knew it was upended.

I was introduced to the world of complex trauma.

The unresolved childhood trauma of a parent or a partner affects the entire family. However, access to resources and supports for survivors and the family can be difficult to find. It’s out of my journey as a spouse, our journey as a family, and my husband’s journey as a survivor I decided to create a space to write, to talk and to share encouragement, education, and support for survivors, partners, families, & others in relationship with childhood trauma survivors.


In addition to regular blog posts, I have written a free resource guide for the partners.

For the Partners of Childhood Abuse Survivors: 6 simple strategies to survive & thrive while living with your partner’s traumatic past by Heather Tuba

This guide is used as a reference for crisis counselors at Blue Knot Foundation (Australia).

My blog post, Anna O: A Role Model in the Time of Trump is also used in professional training held by CIS’ters United Kingdom (a non-profit providing support and professional training about childhood sexual abuse).

Where Else You Can Find Me

I frequently appear as a featured guest on podcasts, Youtube, Twitter chats, and as a blogger.

  1. World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day Virtual Summit 2017
    1. Featured guest on live panel:
    2. 2017 Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Virtual SummitExpert interview as part of pre-recorded event: Topics: The role of advocacy in recovery from narcissistic abuse and supporting a spouse with complex trauma.
    3. Listen here to audio recording.
  2. Surviving My Past Podcast
    1. Topic: Communication Tips for the Partners of Abuse Survivors
    2. Topic: Supporting the Spouse and Family of Abuse Survivors.
  3. Autism Blueprint Podcast (Our oldest daughter has an Autism Spectrum Disorder.)
    1. Topic: The Trauma Tightrope: When Autism and a Parent’s Past Collide.
  4. Trauma Recovery University Youtube
    1. Topic: Partners and Spouses of Child Abuse Survivors
  5. Twitter chats for survivors: #nomoreshame & #sexabusechat
    1. Topic: Partners of childhood abuse survivors.
  6. Guest blogger at Lorileecraker.com
    1. Topic: 7 Thoughts on Trauma, Orphans, and “Anne with an E”

Education and Training

I have over 15 years experience as a support worker in the field of mental health in the non-profit and public sector. In addition to a B.A. from the University of Winnipeg, I have continued my education with university coursework in psychology, psychopathology, and counseling with specialized training in trauma-informed care with the Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing in St. Catharine’s, Ontario, Canada.

Derek and I have three daughters. Our oldest daughter, Claire was diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder (formerly Asperger’s Syndrome) in 2005.

I am available to speak in person or virtually as a guest on topics related to the impact of childhood trauma on partners, families, and communities. Please contact me below.


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