About Me

Heather Tuba, B.A.

My vision:

Comprehensive, accessible, affordable, trauma-informed supports for adult survivors with complex trauma AND for those who support them.

About Me Heather Tuba @heathertuba

My Story

Sometimes life throws us curveballs. And then, sometimes life throws us fireballs.

In 2012, my husband of twenty-one years began to remember his childhood. I didn’t know he had forgotten it–the correct term is dissociation or numbing–but he had. And once the memories began to return, and with it, severe symptoms like flashbacks, confusion, and dissociation, our life was upended.

Every area of life was impacted.

The unresolved childhood trauma of a parent, a partner, a family member, or a friend affects everyone. However, locating trauma-informed resources and supports for survivors and those that support them can be a challenge.

It’s out of my journey as a spouse, our journey as a family, and my husband’s journey as a survivor I decided to create a space to heighten awareness, facilitate change, and provide support resources for adult survivors and their loved ones.

More About Me


My blog posts are meant to create awareness of the challenges, the needs, and the reasons that childhood trauma impacts survivors and supporters so deeply.

30 Eye-Opening Answers to Why Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Need Advocates

Why We Need Stronger Supports for the Supporters of Adults with Complex Trauma


I wrote this short free ebook because I couldn’t find a resource for myself! This book outlines strategies I have used while living with my partner’s complex trauma symptoms.

For the Partners of Childhood Abuse Survivors: 6 simple strategies to survive & thrive while living with your partner’s traumatic past by Heather Tuba

This guide is used as a reference for crisis counselors at Blue Knot Foundation (Australia).

Founder: Facebook Support Groups for Supporters

These two groups are designed to meet a desperate need for space for supporters to connect, share, give and receive encouragement, and learn more about childhood trauma. *(The group for partners includes partners who are separated/divorced from a survivor.)

Partners to Survivors with Complex Trauma

Friends to Survivors with Complex Trauma

More groups to be added as needed.

Frequent Guest

I love to share my family’s story and what can be done to support others like us! A few of my recent opportunities include:

World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day Virtual Summit, June 2017

Topic: How to support a spouse recovering from childhood trauma.

Surviving My Past Podcast

Topic: Communication Tips for the Partners of Abuse Survivors

Topic: Supporting the Spouse and Family of Abuse Survivors.

Autism Blueprint Podcast (Our oldest daughter has an Autism Spectrum Disorder.)

Topic: The Trauma Tightrope: When Autism and a Parent’s Past Collide.

Trauma Recovery University Youtube

Topic: Partners and Spouses of Childhood Abuse Survivors

CIS’ters: Surviving Rape & Sexual Abuse (United Kingdom) used my blog post, Anna O: A Role Model in the Time of Trump as a resource in professional and peer trainings.

Please contact me for availability if you would like to book me as a guest.


Soon to be:

Certified Trauma Integration Practitioner with the Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing, Ontario, Canada.

Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, a brand new initiative of Bobbi L Parish, MMFT, CTRC.

I have over 15 years experience as a support worker in the field of mental health in the non-profit and public sector. In addition to a B.A. from the University of Winnipeg, I have continued my education with university coursework in psychology, psychopathology, and counseling.